6 Rs of Effective Self-Help: A Street Science

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Do you ever find yourself frequenting the self-help section of your favorite bookstore and start to feel alarmed that you are ‘in need of help’?
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You are not alone.  Recent article from Daily Mail UK mentioned that in UK, in spite of the dip on book sales with the recent economic downturn, self-help books increased sales by 25%!
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The growth of the self-help genre can be attributed to the huge clamor for it. A sign of hunger for happiness, inner peace and personal change.
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This industry has become a big business that some have started to question its authenticity.  In the same article in Daily Mail UK, Professor Wilson challenged some self-help authors who claim of ‘secrets’ that enable anyone to change but do not have any scientific basis.  Indeed, all kinds of self-help business have sprouted in every corner of the bookstores and the social media.
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How can we be sure we are getting our money’s worth and that we are not getting some invented advice that has no basis? How can we effectively apply what we learn from these books?
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One of the first self-help books I ever read was ‘Your Erroneous Zones’ by Dr. Wayne Dyer which was an eye-opener for me.  At a young age, I tried to understand the book.  Luckily, I picked up something from it that I carried on throughout my life.
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I learned that in order to change, you need to get out of that cycle of thoughts you have that inhibits you from doing something.
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Makes sense. But sometimes, it takes a rocket scientist to know that. Sometimes it takes a person of wisdom to see that.  Sometimes, it takes a trusted person to hear that.  Now I call that street-science – based on experience, facts, and instincts.  
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Since my first self-help book, I have tried other books including management ones- which in a way are also ‘self-help’ –  that I consider influential in shaping who I am today.  Some people have called me ‘geeky’ because of my interest in books.  Thank goodness, this word has developed to become a positive word!,
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Let me share with you my own experience of growing, re-building, and continuously improving my circle of life from a shy little boy who talked in school only when required to who I am now writing to you about a topic called ‘self-improvement’.  I do not claim to be brilliant, but I have put up this website to create a crusade of self-confidence.
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Research.  
Choose a topic. Do your homework.  Find out about your specific strengths and weaknesses. Prioritize on the most important issues.
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Do a background check on the book you are eyeing.  Don’t waste your time, effort and money on something that does not fit your needs. Google books about your selected topic and scan through the pages in Amazon.  You can also check our book reviews.
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Invest on your self-help book.  By ‘invest’, it does not have to mean you need to spend. Rather, make the effort. Just check among your friends who may have a book that suits your needs.  You may also want to check out the ConfidenceCues Success Kit as a book may be waiting for the lucky winner.
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Reflect.
Find a quiet time to read.  While you can read your book anywhere, spend some time in quiet retreat to be able to digest in your heart and mind what you are reading. Believe me, something will strike you in the silence of your soul.
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Record. 
Just a practical tip.  I have observed that leaders and successful men are the most humble to take notes.  You can take this self-help journey to victory if you do this. Every word that you write is engraved in your heart twice.
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Review.  
Companies do sales conferences to have an overview of the company’s income.  The more is there a need to review the state of each person involved in any activity.  Your notes are not meant to be left to be covered by dust.  A real desire for change require diligent steps.  Allot a time every week to review your self-improvement notes.
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Rise.  
Go out and do what you have to do.  Do not fall into analysis paralysis.  Reality bites when you have to execute.  That is the time when you apply what you learn- talk, act, do.  This is the most critical step in making things happen.
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Report.  
While ‘executing’ is important, there has to be accountability.  You are responsible to yourself.  Unfortunately, there is no good judge of oneself.  Seek support. find someone you can talk to about your personal project and report to him what you plan to do.  This is the best way for you to mirror yourself and see how you performed.  It also ensures you are not creating your own world of ‘change’.  ConfidenceCues Success Kit is organizing a support group to help you in this step.
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Now, help yourself with a self-help book!
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